Friendship – as a two-way street!

“Chai ke liye jaise toast hota hai,
vaise har ek friend zaroori hota hai..”

Only yesterday, I had the priviledge of listening to the first comment against this dearly loved anthem-of-the-moments. Yesterday, because almost every Indian likes it, even my Pa! Priviledge, because only when your mind stumbles upon variation of ideas, you are forced to sit down and analyse them. And the other words, they are self justified! 🙂

“Har ek friend zaroori nahi hota hai,
bahot saare time-waste
hote hain..”

When I first heard this, I clapped real loud! Of course, agar har ek friend zaroori ho gaya, to apni life mein aap hi zaroori nahi reh jaoge. Life’s too short to worry about a thousand facebook loving friends. Maybe you’ll even need two lifetimes for that!

But if we start calibrating importance level of every friendship in our lives, soon we’ll run out of the very essence of it.

“Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind. “Pooh?” he whispered.
“Yes, Piglet?”
“Nothing,” said Piglet, taking Pooh’s hand. “I just wanted to be sure of you.” ?                                                                                                                – A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh
How can we forget that blind faith is the lock which binds Pooh and Piglet together!? And that’s not something we can play with. Then, of course, I remembered that friendship isn’t supposed to be the climber which just takes your support and grows out of nowhere, but the tree which needed timeless care before strengthening its thick, supportive trunk and deep, firm roots. Maybe facebook shows a thousand friends in our list, but that is not something which decides our emotions. (Even there, friends can be classifies under names of ‘close friends’, ‘acquaintances’, ‘restricted’ and many more which we may want to define personally!) Maybe it has helped us network ourselves, but still, we count on only few in our times of need.

“But friendship is precious, not only in the shade, but in the sunshine of life, and thanks to a benevolent arrangement the greater part of life is sunshine. “
                                                                                                                                 – Thomas Jefferson

And what else is the benevolent arrangement, but friendship itself, as friends are our private suns and we face night only when we part from them! Yes, not everyone can be worth of savoring your sunlight, because unlike the sun in the solar system, our age is counted in multiple of tens! Then why do we waste our time and energy in thinking about every fellow as if it is our duty, when we haven’t even tested for the strength of the fellow-ship!? ( As the same person pointed out, time-pass=time-fail to which, I as well as millions of other great men agree!)

“The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for ?”

                                                                                                                                         – Bob Marley

Why don’t we respect the sunlight emanating form ourselves when we do respect that of every second person we know? Why don’t we ever stop and think if the person deserves what we are eager to give? Why don’t we try seeing the difference between being “good” and being “docile”? We mistake fellowship every time with a friendship. We need to read the fine line.
Like my Pa used to say, ” Hindi mein, “sakha”, “mitra” , “dost”, sabke alag matlab hote hain ,par English mein, saare “friend” hote hain!”  
Even a relationship not based on two way friendship is like mushy love from fresher year at college which is nothing but fickle excitement, dying out as speedily as it grew!
“You are my best friend as well as my lover, and I do not know which side of you I enjoy the most. I treasure each side, just as I have treasured our life together.” 

                                                                                                        – Nichloas Sparks (The Notebook)

If all is thought the way it is meant to be, friendship still continues to be a two-way street where neither seems to be approaching the latter, but are still joined in an inseparable way. And where both ends have got a path of their own, but still are connected at all points of time in their journey!
Of course, “har ek ‘friend’ zaroori hota hai!” 🙂


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